ADMIRATION: An Evaluation

ADMIRATION: An Evaluation

 I have always been reluctant in reacting happily to my praise, especially during large gatherings or when it is done by close ones. One of the reasons why I don't like to celebrate birthday is also the same odd feeling when being in focus due to good cause. 


WHY PEOPLE ARE ADMIRED ? 

1.  Because they have something worth praise- like someone who sings or acts or speaks well. also some academic distinctions like clearing any reputed entrance exam i.e. JEE ADVANCED or getting a job.


2. To lift people up- often it is received by any friend or favourite teacher or by our parents and grand parents. also when a participant like some player or performer is feeling low, he/she is admired to regain the ground. 


3. Celebrity status- this is often in case of some extraordinary skill or art like Sachin Tendulkar, Arijit Singh to name a few. but then again this is extension of point no 1 with the large base of admirers. 


4. Flattery or Buttering- this is often associated with people not-so-close. when they have some work or something to get from someone they praise falsely so that receiving person can help them in their 'ambition'.


WHY I DON'T LIKE PRAISE?

1. An admiration without associated criticism or a logical base only generates false expectations. like any student when called a class topper for a long time, he will delude himself of being so. 

2. A praise generates a sense of greatness or having something better than others. In social gathering or among a group of people it may cut the person getting praise from the rest. I often associate this point with myself because I like to mix with people than being superior to them in any way. 

3. Flattery or buttering is nothing but a way to get something from someone. It only results in blind trust if the receiving person is not so aware, leading to adverse consequences in long time like fraud etc. 

4. Praise is often a reward for our hard work, and can be addictive in times when not audited properly. the addiction may result into poor evaluation, shortcuts, falling productivity etc, 


HOW ADMIRATION SHOULD BE? 

One must be praised for his goodness, but also the shortcomings should also be highlighted. It should be like a feedback mechanism rather than a formality. Yes, there are times when one can not point the shortcomings due to various reasons but than its the receiver which should take care of that point. Otherwise, its just clapping for the shake of clapping with subsequent illusion that I am the best. 


Until next time, 


suggestions/critics are always welcome.

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